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Important Dates

Never forget the moments that matter.

What are Important Dates?​

Important Dates help you remember and celebrate special occasions in your relationship. Track birthdays, anniversaries, and custom milestones with automatic reminders.

What Can You Track?​

Date Types​

ReKindle supports three types of important dates:

🎂 Birthday​

  • Annual recurring date
  • For your partner's birthday, your birthday, or other birthdays you want to remember
  • Typically suggests "Gift" category for AI suggestions

💍 Anniversary​

  • Annual recurring date
  • Relationship anniversary, wedding anniversary, first date, etc.
  • Typically suggests "Date Night" or "Special Occasion" category for AI suggestions

⭐ Custom​

  • One-time or annual events
  • Examples: Moving in together, trip anniversaries, pet adoption, first "I love you", etc.
  • Flexible suggestion categories

Adding an Important Date​

From Dashboard​

  1. Navigate to Dashboard
  2. Scroll to "Coming Up" section
  3. Tap "+ Add Date" button
  4. Fill in the date details
  5. Save

From Dates Screen​

  1. Tap the Dates tab (or Important Dates screen)
  2. Tap "+ Add Date" button
  3. Fill in the date details
  4. Save

Date Details​

When creating a date, provide:

Required:

  • Date Name - What you're celebrating (e.g., "Sarah's Birthday", "Our Anniversary")
  • Date Type - Birthday, Anniversary, or Custom
  • Date - The actual date (month and day, year optional)

Optional:

  • Your Reminder Offset - When you want to be reminded (see below)
  • Partner Reminder Offset - When your partner should be reminded (if shared)
  • Share with Partner - Whether your linked partner can see this date

Reminder System​

Reminder Offset Options​

Choose when you want to be reminded before the date:

OptionDays BeforeBest For
NoneNo advance reminderDates you want to remember yourself
1 Day1 dayLast-minute reminders
1 Week7 daysPlan ahead for small occasions
2 Weeks14 daysMedium planning time
3 Weeks21 daysBigger events needing preparation
1 Month30 daysMajor occasions, gift shopping
2 Months60 daysVery significant events
3 Months90 daysMaximum advance notice
Setting Reminders

Even if you choose "None" for advance reminders, you'll always receive a day-of reminder on the morning of the date.

How Reminders Work​

Advance Reminder (if set):

  • Sent X days before the date (based on your offset choice)
  • Includes a "Generate Ideas" button
  • Suggests an appropriate AI suggestion category
  • Example: "Sarah's Birthday is coming up in 2 weeks. Want to generate some gift ideas?"

Day-Of Reminder (always sent):

  • Sent on the morning of the date (9:00 AM UTC)
  • Celebration message
  • Example: "🎉 Today: Sarah's Birthday - Don't forget!"

Cron Schedule:

  • Reminders are checked daily at 9:00 AM UTC
  • Notifications are sent automatically

Learn more about Notifications

Partner Reminder Settings​

If you share a date with your partner, you can set separate reminder offsets:

  • Your Reminder Offset - When you want to be reminded
  • Partner Reminder Offset - When your partner wants to be reminded

Example:

  • Sarah's birthday
  • Your reminder: 1 month before (time to shop for a gift)
  • Partner's reminder: 1 week before (they prefer shorter notice)

Both always receive day-of reminders regardless of their advance reminder settings.

Shared Dates​

Sharing with Your Partner​

When linked with a partner, you can share important dates:

What happens when shared:

  • ✅ Both partners see the date
  • ✅ Both receive reminders (based on their individual offset preferences)
  • ✅ Date appears in both partners' "Coming Up" section on Dashboard
  • ✅ Both can view details

What's restricted:

  • ❌ Only the date creator can edit or delete
  • ❌ Partner can view but not modify

Partner Visibility Rules​

For dates YOU created:

  • You control the "Share with Partner" setting
  • You can edit: name, type, date, all reminder settings
  • You can delete the date
  • Partner can only view (if shared)

For dates YOUR PARTNER created:

  • You can view details (if they shared it)
  • You cannot edit any fields
  • You cannot delete the date
  • Read-only view

Creating Dates for Your Partner​

Want to add your partner's birthday?

  1. Create the date (e.g., "John's Birthday")
  2. Set the date type to "Birthday"
  3. Set your reminder offset (when you want to be reminded)
  4. Set partner reminder offset if they should be reminded too
  5. Enable "Share with Partner"
  6. Save

Now you both see the date and get reminders (based on individual preferences).

Viewing Important Dates​

Dates Screen​

Access the full list:

  • Tap Dates tab (or Important Dates in navigation)
  • See all your dates chronologically
  • Dates are sorted by next occurrence

For each date:

  • Date type icon (🎂 💍 ⭐)
  • Date name
  • Next occurrence date
  • Countdown ("Today", "Tomorrow", "In 5 days", "In 2 months")
  • Color-coded by type:
    • 🎂 Birthday = Primary color
    • 💍 Anniversary = Red
    • ⭐ Custom = Secondary color

Dashboard Preview​

The Dashboard shows the next 3 upcoming dates:

  • Quick overview in "Coming Up" section
  • Horizontal scroll through date cards
  • Tap to view details or add new dates

Editing Dates​

To Edit a Date You Created:​

  1. Tap the date (from Dates screen or Dashboard)
  2. Modal opens with date details
  3. Modify any fields:
    • Date name
    • Date type
    • Date itself
    • Your reminder offset
    • Partner reminder offset
    • Share with partner toggle
  4. Tap "Save"
  5. Changes are immediately reflected

Cannot Edit Partner's Dates​

If your partner created the date:

  • You can view details
  • All fields are read-only
  • Modal shows "Created by [Partner Name]"
  • Only your partner can edit or delete

Deleting Dates​

To Delete a Date You Created:​

  1. Tap the date to open details
  2. Tap "Delete" or trash icon
  3. Confirm deletion in dialog
  4. Date is permanently removed
  5. Partner no longer sees it (if it was shared)

Cannot Delete Partner's Dates​

You cannot delete dates your partner created, even if they're shared with you.

Date Recurrence​

Annual Dates (Birthday & Anniversary)​

  • Automatically recur every year
  • After the date passes, the "next occurrence" updates to next year
  • Example: "Sarah's Birthday" on Jan 15, 2026 → Next occurrence: Jan 15, 2027

Custom Dates​

  • One-time events by default
  • After the date passes, it remains in your list
  • You can manually change the date if you want to track it annually

Integration with Other Features​

AI Suggestions​

Important date reminders include a "Generate Ideas" button:

How it works:

  1. You receive an advance reminder
  2. Notification shows suggested AI suggestion category
    • Birthday → Gift Ideas
    • Anniversary → Date Night or Special Occasion
    • Custom → General suggestions
  3. Tap "Generate Ideas" in notification
  4. Navigates to Suggestions screen
  5. Automatically generates category-specific suggestions

Example Flow:

  1. Reminder: "Sarah's Birthday coming up in 2 weeks"
  2. Tap "Generate Gift Ideas"
  3. AI creates 3-7 gift suggestions tailored to Sarah's profile
  4. Review and plan a thoughtful surprise!

Dashboard Integration​

  • Next 3 dates appear in "Coming Up"
  • Color-coded cards
  • Quick add button
  • Tap to view/edit details

Notifications​

  • Advance reminders (based on offset)
  • Day-of reminders (always)
  • Actionable with suggestion generation

Learn more about Notifications

Tips for Using Important Dates​

1. Add All Key Dates Early​

Don't wait for dates to approach. Add them now:

  • Partner's birthday
  • Your anniversary
  • Family birthdays you want to remember together
  • Relationship milestones

2. Use Longer Reminder Offsets for Big Events​

  • Birthdays: 2-4 weeks (gift shopping time)
  • Anniversaries: 1 month (plan special dates)
  • Custom events: Depends on preparation needed

3. Add Small Milestones Too​

Celebrate more than just birthdays:

  • First trip anniversary
  • First "I love you"
  • Moving in together anniversary
  • Pet adoption anniversary

4. Coordinate Reminders with Your Partner​

If sharing dates, discuss reminder preferences:

  • One partner might want more advance notice
  • The other prefers shorter timelines
  • Set offsets accordingly

5. Generate Suggestions from Reminders​

When you get a reminder:

  • Tap "Generate Ideas" immediately
  • Don't wait until the last minute
  • Use the suggested category for targeted ideas

6. Review Dates Periodically​

Every few months:

  • Check if dates are still accurate
  • Add new milestones
  • Update reminder preferences if needed

Frequently Asked Questions​

Q: Can I add dates without a partner?

A: Yes! You can create and track important dates without a linked partner. However, they won't be shared until you link with someone.

Q: What happens to shared dates if we unlink?

A: Shared dates become private to each user. You keep dates you created; your partner keeps dates they created.

Q: Can I have recurring custom dates?

A: Custom dates are one-time by default, but you can manually update the date each year to simulate recurrence.

Q: How many dates can I add?

A: There's no limit! Add as many important dates as you want to track.

Q: Can I turn off day-of reminders?

A: No, day-of reminders are always sent for every important date. However, you can control advance reminders with the offset setting.

Q: What time are reminders sent?

A: Reminders are sent daily at 9:00 AM UTC. Your device's local time will vary based on your timezone.

Q: Can I set different categories for suggestions?

A: The app suggests a category based on date type, but when you tap "Generate Ideas," you can choose any category you want on the Suggestions screen.

Q: Can my partner edit my dates?

A: No, only the date creator can edit or delete. Partners can view shared dates but not modify them.

Q: What if I set the wrong date?

A: Just tap the date and edit it. Changes are saved immediately.

Q: Do past dates get deleted automatically?

A: No, dates remain in your list. Annual dates (birthday/anniversary) automatically update to next year's occurrence. Custom dates remain as-is.