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AI Therapist Chat

Your personal relationship guide, available 24/7 to help you navigate challenges and strengthen your bond.

What is the AI Therapist?​

The AI Therapist is a conversational feature that provides personalized, empathetic guidance for your relationship. Think of it as a supportive companion who understands your unique situation and can offer thoughtful advice anytime you need it.

Key Benefit

Personalized to Your Relationship - The AI knows your partner's preferences and love languages (from their card swipes) and tailors advice specifically for your situation.

How It Works​

Starting a Conversation​

  1. Tap the Chat icon in your navigation bar
  2. Start typing your question or concern
  3. The AI responds with personalized guidance
  4. Continue the conversation naturally

What You Can Discuss​

The AI Therapist can help with a wide range of relationship topics:

TopicExamples
Communication"How do I bring up a difficult topic?"
Conflict Resolution"We had an argument about chores, how can we resolve this?"
Quality Time"We've been busy lately, how can we reconnect?"
Gift Ideas"Our anniversary is coming up, any ideas?"
Understanding Your Partner"Why might my partner react this way?"
Relationship Growth"How can we strengthen our relationship?"
Daily Challenges"We're stressed about work, how can we support each other?"

AI-Powered Actions​

The AI can take actions on your behalf (with your confirmation):

  • Add Important Dates - If you mention an upcoming anniversary or birthday, the AI can add it to your calendar
  • Create Suggestions - The AI can create personalized activity suggestions based on your conversation
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The AI always asks for your confirmation before taking any action. You stay in control.

Memory & Personalization​

How the AI Remembers​

The AI Therapist maintains context across conversations through a smart memory system:

Extracted Facts

  • Important details you share (partner's name, kids, pets, hobbies)
  • Significant dates and events
  • Relationship milestones

Conversation Summaries

  • Key topics discussed in previous sessions
  • Advice given and outcomes
  • Your communication preferences

Your Partner's Profile​

The AI uses insights from your partner's AI Profile to provide better advice:

  • Their love languages and preferences
  • Communication style
  • Values and priorities
  • Interests and hobbies
Partner Privacy

The AI uses your partner's profile insights to help you, but your conversations remain completely private. Your partner cannot see what you discuss with the AI.

Usage Limits​

AI Therapist messages are subject to weekly limits based on your subscription plan. Limits reset every Monday, and only messages you send count toward your limit — AI responses are free.

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See the Pricing page for current message limits by plan, or visit Subscription Plans for more details.

What Happens at Limit​

When you reach your weekly limit:

  • You can still view past conversations
  • You cannot send new messages until limits reset (Monday)
  • A friendly message explains your limit and upgrade options

Tips for Better Conversations​

1. Be Specific​

Instead of: "My relationship is hard" Try: "My partner and I have been arguing about household chores lately"

The more context you provide, the better advice the AI can give.

2. Share Your Feelings​

The AI responds well to emotional context:

  • "I feel unappreciated when..."
  • "I'm worried that..."
  • "I want to feel more connected because..."

3. Ask Follow-Up Questions​

If advice doesn't quite fit, ask for alternatives:

  • "What if that doesn't work?"
  • "Can you suggest something less confrontational?"
  • "How might I phrase that differently?"

4. Use for Planning​

The AI is great for planning meaningful moments:

  • "Help me plan a surprise date night"
  • "What's a thoughtful way to apologize?"
  • "How can I make our anniversary special?"

5. Regular Check-Ins​

Use the AI for regular relationship maintenance:

  • Weekly relationship reflections
  • Preparing for difficult conversations
  • Celebrating wins and milestones

Privacy & Data​

What's Collected​

  • Your messages and AI responses
  • Session timestamps
  • Extracted facts (for personalization)
  • Conversation summaries

What's Private​

  • Your partner cannot see your chat history
  • Conversations are encrypted
  • Data is progressively compressed over time

Deleting Chat History​

You can delete your entire chat history in Settings > Privacy > Delete Chat History. This removes:

  • All messages
  • All conversation summaries
  • All extracted facts

The AI will start fresh with no memory of past conversations.

Read our full Privacy Policy

Frequently Asked Questions​

Q: Is this real therapy?

A: No, the AI Therapist provides supportive guidance but is not a replacement for professional mental health services. If you're experiencing a crisis or need professional help, please consult a licensed therapist or counselor.

Q: Can my partner see my conversations?

A: No, your chat history is completely private. Your partner cannot access or view any of your conversations with the AI.

Q: How does the AI know about my partner?

A: The AI uses insights from your partner's AI Profile (built from their card swipes) to understand their preferences and give personalized advice.

Q: Does the AI remember our past conversations?

A: Yes, the AI maintains memory through extracted facts and conversation summaries. It remembers important details you've shared and topics you've discussed.

Q: Can I start fresh?

A: Yes, you can delete your chat history in Settings at any time. The AI will have no memory of past conversations.

Q: What if I don't have a partner linked?

A: You can still use the AI Therapist, but advice will be more general since the AI won't have insights into your partner's preferences.

Q: Is my conversation used to train AI models?

A: No, your private conversations are not used to train AI models. They are only used to provide you with personalized responses.

Q: How is this different from regular AI chatbots?

A: Unlike generic chatbots, the AI Therapist:

  • Knows your partner's preferences and love languages
  • Remembers your relationship history
  • Can take actions (add dates, create suggestions)
  • Is specifically trained for relationship guidance