Elisa — AI Therapist Chat
Your personal relationship guide, available 24/7 to help you navigate challenges and strengthen your bond.
What is Elisa?
Elisa is ReKindle's AI companion — a conversational feature that provides personalized, empathetic guidance for your relationship. Think of her as a supportive companion who understands your unique situation and can offer thoughtful advice anytime you need it.
Personalized to Your Relationship - The AI knows your partner's preferences and love languages (from their card swipes) and tailors advice specifically for your situation.
How It Works
Starting a Conversation
- Tap the Chat icon in your navigation bar
- Start typing your question or concern
- The AI responds with personalized guidance
- Continue the conversation naturally
What You Can Discuss
The AI Therapist can help with a wide range of relationship topics:
| Topic | Examples |
|---|---|
| Communication | "How do I bring up a difficult topic?" |
| Conflict Resolution | "We had an argument about chores, how can we resolve this?" |
| Quality Time | "We've been busy lately, how can we reconnect?" |
| Gift Ideas | "Our anniversary is coming up, any ideas?" |
| Understanding Your Partner | "Why might my partner react this way?" |
| Relationship Growth | "How can we strengthen our relationship?" |
| Daily Challenges | "We're stressed about work, how can we support each other?" |
AI-Powered Actions
The AI can take actions on your behalf (with your confirmation):
- Add Important Dates - If you mention an upcoming anniversary or birthday, the AI can add it to your calendar
- Create Suggestions - The AI can create personalized activity suggestions based on your conversation
The AI always asks for your confirmation before taking any action. You stay in control.
Memory & Personalization
How the AI Remembers
The AI Therapist maintains context across conversations through a smart memory system:
Extracted Facts
- Important details you share (partner's name, kids, pets, hobbies)
- Significant dates and events
- Relationship milestones
Conversation Summaries
- Key topics discussed in previous sessions
- Advice given and outcomes
- Your communication preferences
Your Partner's Profile
The AI uses insights from your partner's AI Profile to provide better advice:
- Their love languages and preferences
- Communication style
- Values and priorities
- Interests and hobbies
The AI uses your partner's profile insights to help you, but your conversations remain completely private. Your partner cannot see what you discuss with the AI.
Safety & Crisis Support
Elisa prioritizes your safety above everything else.
Crisis Detection
Elisa uses an AI-powered safety layer that monitors conversations for signs of distress, including references to self-harm or crisis situations. When detected:
- Crisis resources appear automatically — a banner with relevant helpline numbers is displayed immediately
- Resources are localized — hotlines are matched to your country based on your app language setting
- Conversation continues safely — Elisa responds with empathy and encourages you to seek professional support
If you are in crisis, please contact emergency services or a crisis helpline immediately. Elisa can provide resources and a compassionate ear, but cannot replace professional mental health care.
Supported Languages
Elisa is fully multilingual and responds in your language automatically:
| Language | Code |
|---|---|
| English | en |
| Français | fr |
| Español | es |
| Deutsch | de |
| Italiano | it |
Your language is detected automatically from your app settings. You can change it in Profile → Settings → Language.
Usage Limits
AI Therapist messages are subject to weekly limits based on your subscription plan. Limits reset every Monday, and only messages you send count toward your limit — AI responses are free.
See the Pricing page for current message limits by plan, or visit Subscription Plans for more details.
What Happens at Limit
When you reach your weekly limit:
- You can still view past conversations
- You cannot send new messages until limits reset (Monday)
- A friendly message explains your limit and upgrade options
Tips for Better Conversations
1. Be Specific
Instead of: "My relationship is hard" Try: "My partner and I have been arguing about household chores lately"
The more context you provide, the better advice the AI can give.
2. Share Your Feelings
The AI responds well to emotional context:
- "I feel unappreciated when..."
- "I'm worried that..."
- "I want to feel more connected because..."
3. Ask Follow-Up Questions
If advice doesn't quite fit, ask for alternatives:
- "What if that doesn't work?"
- "Can you suggest something less confrontational?"
- "How might I phrase that differently?"
4. Use for Planning
The AI is great for planning meaningful moments:
- "Help me plan a surprise date night"
- "What's a thoughtful way to apologize?"
- "How can I make our anniversary special?"
5. Regular Check-Ins
Use the AI for regular relationship maintenance:
- Weekly relationship reflections
- Preparing for difficult conversations
- Celebrating wins and milestones
Privacy & Data
What's Collected
- Your messages and AI responses
- Session timestamps
- Extracted facts (for personalization)
- Conversation summaries
What's Private
- Your partner cannot see your chat history
- Conversations are encrypted
- Data is progressively compressed over time
Deleting Chat History
You can delete your entire chat history in Settings > Privacy > Delete Chat History. This removes:
- All messages
- All conversation summaries
- All extracted facts
The AI will start fresh with no memory of past conversations.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: Who is Elisa?
A: Elisa is the name of ReKindle's AI companion. She provides empathetic relationship guidance 24/7, tailored to your unique situation. She is not a licensed therapist, but a supportive AI specifically designed for relationship topics.
Q: What happens if I mention a crisis or self-harm?
A: Elisa's safety system automatically detects crisis signals in the conversation. If triggered, it immediately displays a banner with localized crisis hotline resources relevant to your country. Elisa responds with care and encourages you to reach out to a professional. Your safety always comes first.
Q: Is this real therapy?
A: No, Elisa provides supportive guidance but is not a replacement for professional mental health services. If you're experiencing a crisis or need professional help, please consult a licensed therapist or counselor.
Q: Can my partner see my conversations?
A: No, your chat history is completely private. Your partner cannot access or view any of your conversations with the AI.
Q: How does the AI know about my partner?
A: The AI uses insights from your partner's AI Profile (built from their card swipes) to understand their preferences and give personalized advice.
Q: Does the AI remember our past conversations?
A: Yes, the AI maintains memory through extracted facts and conversation summaries. It remembers important details you've shared and topics you've discussed.
Q: Can I start fresh?
A: Yes, you can delete your chat history in Settings at any time. The AI will have no memory of past conversations.
Q: What if I don't have a partner linked?
A: You can still use the AI Therapist, but advice will be more general since the AI won't have insights into your partner's preferences.
Q: Is my conversation used to train AI models?
A: No, your private conversations are not used to train AI models. They are only used to provide you with personalized responses.
Q: How is Elisa different from regular AI chatbots?
A: Unlike generic chatbots, Elisa:
- Knows your partner's preferences and love languages
- Remembers your relationship history across sessions
- Can take actions (add dates, create suggestions)
- Is specifically designed for relationship guidance
- Responds in your language (EN, FR, ES, DE, IT)
- Has a built-in crisis detection safety layer
Related Features
- AI Profile - How the AI understands your partner
- AI Suggestions - Get activity ideas from the AI
- Important Dates - Dates the AI can help you remember
- Subscription Plans - Message limits by plan